Rules of LIFE

Make peace with your past so it won’t disturb your future.

What other people think of you is none of your business.

The only person in charge of your happiness is you.

Don’t compare your life to others, comparison is the thief of joy.

Time heals almost everything. Give it time.

Stop thinking so much. It’s alright not to know all the answers.

Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world.

Live life to the fullest…

Take a look at these 26 simple pieces of advice. True, some of them you may not agree with, but we promise you there’s a lot here that will help you find peace of mind, food for thought, and above all, the potential to find the path to happiness.

  1. Money is never wasted if you use it to have fun.
  2. If you like someone, just tell them about it. What have you got to lose?
  3. Live your life today, because yesterday’s gone, and there may not be a tomorrow.
  4. If something isn’t clear, ask for an explanation.
  5. If you want company, send an invitation.
  6. If you want something, ask for it.
  7. Avoid arguments when agreement can be reached.
  8. If you want to be understood, explain.
  9. If you’re guilty, own up and don’t look for excuses.
  10. Always remember that everyone has their own truth, and it often doesn’t coincide with yours.
  11. Avoid contact with fools.
  12. The main thing in life is love, everything else is vanity.
  13. Your problems are only in your head.
  14. The world around us is neither good nor bad, it doesn’t care whether you’re there or not.
  15. Try to take pleasure in everything that happens to you during your life.
  16. Always remember that you won’t have another life.
  17. Don’t be a pain in the neck!
  18. Don’t waste your time watching TV, it’s essentially a box invented for idiots.
  19. Remember that you owe no one anything.
  20. Remember that no one owes you anything.
  21. Don’t waste your time on politics, it will only make you bitter.
  22. There’s only one person you can rely on in this life — yourself.
  23. Believe not in promises but your own feelings.
  24. Always be patient and a little indulgent towards children.
  25. If you’re in a bad mood, think about the fact that when you leave this world, you won’t be in any mood at all.
  26. Always remember that today could be the best day of your life.

Simply put:


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Still questioning the above tips? I bet not….

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Today you can decide you will. Today you can do what you decide.

Today you do not have to beg or wish or wait for permission. Today you can do what must be done, what you would love to get done.

Your dreams have teased you long enough. Today you can act to make them real.

You’ve avoided your best possibilities all too often. With your efforts today you’re able to push them into reality.

Transform the disappointments of the past into determination. Take the energy from every feeling and point it all in a positive direction.

One moment ends, another begins, and you can make use of every one. Ask yourself what you love and treasure and today, do something about it.



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Your time is now..

The best time to start is now. The best place to start is here.

The best resources to use are whatever you have. The best way to proceed is by doing whatever you can do.

It’s fine to have ambitious and detailed plans, but the plans are not the achievement. Achievement requires action, and the sooner you start the better.

It’s good to study carefully and prepare yourself for the effort. Yet much of what you need to know, you’ll have to learn as you go along, so go, do, learn, achieve.

Don’t let the good things you envision stay stuck in your imagination. Give them life by giving them your immediate and persistent effort.

There are countless things you can do to make life better. And now is your moment to begin.



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Message by Ralph Marston.

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Second Half.

It is a new month. A new month to many usually marks another moment to turn over a new leaf in the event that the previous month turned out to be hell. To some, it is their birthday month, a month for them to grow a year older and wiser. Whatever your view of a new month is, just give thanks to the One above for bringing you this far. But, have you realized that today, yes today the 2nd of July marks the beginning of the second half of the year?

There is a reason why most games have a half-time break. It is usually a time for the coaches to change the game tactics supposing the first half went awry. For the team on the winning side of the first half, it is a time to identify tactics that will help them consolidate their first-half performance in order for them to seize the day. All in all, the second half of the match is very critical to any game because the match is always unpredictable; anything can happen.

We have always seen teams that have been on the losing end of the match in the first half come back in the second half and seize the day! Remember the Miracle In Istanbul? The year was 2005. The game was a Champions League Final pitting Italian Giants AC Milan against the most successful English club in the Champions League i.e. Liverpool. By then, I was supporting Liverpool to take the cup being a big fan of the EPL. Liverpool conceded easily within the first minute. They further conceded another two goals to end the first half three goals down. What makes this match be termed as a miracle is that Liverpool made a comeback in the second half within 6 minutes, yes you read that right, 6 minutes!! The second half was so intense and the game was forced to go into extra time and eventually had to be decided on penalties where Liverpool emerged with victory.



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The Miracle in Istanbul serves to remind us that we should not give up when the going gets tough. We should hold on and identify appropriate measures we need to take to improve our lives. We need to view a crisis as a chance to prove how strong we can be. At times we need to hit the rock bottom in order for us to become successful. Hitting the rock bottom should also serve to make us strong.


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You have a chance to make your life better during this second half of the year. You have the chance to achieve that goal or resolution you set at the beginning of the year. If you wanted to become a millionaire, there goes your chance. If you wanted to start a business, well there goes your chance. Moreover, if your life had experienced a ‘beatdown’ in the first half just forget it and focus on the positives. Start the second half on a positive note and remember that as a man thinketh so he is. If you think the second half is just going to be tough like the first, then it will be tough. Think positive and act right!


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Why Forget?

I happened to be looking for certain life truths we all ought to live by. At times, we find ourselves stuck in a rut and more often than not we tend to develop stress and lament about how miserable our life is. To avoid such circumstances, we need to remember some basic life truths.

As I was going through the Marc & Angel Hack Life website, I came across a post titled       10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon. It is worth noting that in this journey called life, we shall meet different people and in our interactions we shall see, feel, taste, speak and hear new things.

According to the  author of the post, we often hear these truths in more than a hundred different ways before it finally gets through us. The ten truths that we need to fully grasp in order to wade smoothly through life are as below:

1.  The average human life is relatively short.

We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know.  It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step.  You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.

LIVE your life TODAY!  Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either.  Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action.  Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive.  Be bold.  Be courageous.  Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

2.  You will only ever live the life you create for yourself.

Your life is yours alone.  Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you.  They can walk with you, but not in your shoes.  So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.

Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t.  Be productive and patient.  And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.  This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices.  May your actions speak louder than your words.  May your life preach louder than your lips.  May your success be your noise in the end.

And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it.  Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart.

3.  Being busy does NOT mean being productive.

I at one time bumped into an article on Busyness. The writer at one point joked that BUSY means :Being Under Satan’s Yoke because most of the times one says (s)he is busy, there is no tangible output or evidence of productivity being realized.

Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect.  Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time.  We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should.

Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days.  Just take a quick look around.  Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin.  Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time.  They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.  They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.  Yet, emails are shooting out of their smartphones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations.  Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.  But it’s all an illusion.  They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.

Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term.  We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.

4.  Some kind of failure always occurs before success.

Most mistakes are unavoidable.  Learn to forgive yourself.  It’s not a problem to make them.  It’s only a problem if you never learn from them.

If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful.  The solution to this problem is making friends with failure.  You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner?  The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.  Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us.

Bottom line:  Just because it’s not happening now, doesn’t mean it never will.  Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.

5.  Thinking and doing are two very different things.


Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it.

You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.  Knowledge is basically useless without action.  Good things don’t come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals.  Ask yourself what’s really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.

And remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, you’ll likely be waiting the rest of your life.

6.  You don’t have to wait for an apology to forgive.

Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got.  The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative.  It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you very much for the lesson.”  It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head.

Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep. Remember that, when you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.  It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.

7.  Some people are simply the wrong match for you.

Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are,‘ the old adage goes.

You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down.  You shouldn’t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing.

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you’re with them, for whatever reason, they’re probably not close friend material.  If they make you feel like you can’t be yourself, or if they make you “less than” in any way, don’t pursue a connection with them.  If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition.  There are so many “right people” for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self.  It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.

8.  It’s not other people’s job to love you; it’s yours.

It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.  You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.  So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.  Know your worth, even if they don’t.

Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are.  Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU.

9.  What you own is not who YOU are.

Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person.  Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need.  That’s a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences.

You have to create your own culture. Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences.  The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE.  What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc. Do not worry much about life, it is never that serious.

10.  Everything changes, every second.

Nothing is permanent…

Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason.  It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.

What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow.  You never know.  Things change, often spontaneously.  People and circumstances come and go.  Life doesn’t stop for anybody.  It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day.  It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now.

However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So when life is good, enjoy it.  Don’t go looking for something better every second.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it.

My Parting Shot:


Never forget the life truths.

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Happy New Month!!!!!

The first half of the year is really coming to a close. This month marks the last month of the first half of the year 2016. For the football lovers, Euro 2016 will be kicking off in France in the course of this month. Well, that is just one of the major events to anticipate during this month.



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As an individual, a new month presents you with a chance to turn over a new leaf. To some other people, a new month is a time for them to determine whether they review have been treading on the right path or not. It is a chance for them to take on the set goals for the month so that they can remain on course towards achieving what they set forth at the beginning of the year in their resolutions.

Take this time to look back and see whether you are on the right path. Take a moment and reflect. Pose this important question to yourself: Is this place where I had set myself to be at the beginning of the year? If your answer is yes, keep it up! If your answer is no, do not worry. It is said that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. So during this month, take time to adopt new healthy habits that will streamline you towards achieving your set targets.



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Remember that life presents you with a second chance and it is called TOMORROW. Do not despair. Stay focused. Happy New Month!!!



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How time has flown…

Back then when I was a child, there used to be a lot of wrestling action on TV. Monday Night Raw and Tuesday Night Smackdown with repeats on Saturday and Sunday. In short, there used to be 4 consecutive days of wrestling action!!! Back then, Dwayne Johnson a.k.a The Rock and Stone Cold Steve Austin used to be on form and all the focus was on them. That was over 15 years ago.

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I was a big fan of The Rock due to his tagline, “If you smeeeeeellll what The Rock is cooking!!!” He had a jersey written ‘JUST BRING IT’. He also had a bull tattoo on his right arm. In addition, he used to have a signature behavior of raising his right eyebrow over the left one. I used to just find myself imitating him. I could not help it.

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Steve Austin, on the other hand, had taglines such as ‘Hell Yeah!!’ and ‘What?’ There was also the Austin 3:16 which back then I could not understand. He also had a rattle snake such that a certain flash on the viewers screen would signal that it was time for Stone Cold to finish off his opponent. Besides that, he used to receive beer from fans. He would smash the beer cans against each other and proceed on to gulp the contents. He also used to come to the ring with an SUV pick up with a skull tattoo on the bonnet. I really had a rough time choosing who to remain loyal to between The Rock and Stone Cold.

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That was then. Time has really flown fast and these two superstars have moved on. Both of them have taken roles in movies. The Rock is in the Fast n Furious franchise besides taking roles in other movies such as Scorpion King and Walking Tall. Steve Austin has played roles in The Package and The Expendables.

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Below is a short clip I found online that really rekindled my childhood memories when WWE had a large number of superstars who just kept the show entertaining. They are the superstars a majority of my agemates grew up knowing. Have a look at the video:



Oh Yeah!!! What a nice childhood I had!!

Time Management

Have you ever been in this kind of situation where you wish to do something but at the end of the day you still find yourself in the same place? It might be completing that assignment which is due in a month, a piece of research due next week, or perhaps reading a chapter of your ‘favorite’ novel so to speak. Time flies in between your contemplations on whether to carry out such tasks or not. This is usually a challenge that faces the youth especially those in campus. There seems to be a notion that time is always on their side. This is usually backed up by the fact that everything is going on well and in their favor especially for the colleagues receiving ‘something’ from Anniversary Towers.

The challenge comes in when reality hits them hard. At this point, the deadline is around the corner and time is really flying fast like bullets fired in Kapedo. There is a tendency to either panic or be complacent in a manner that shows they do not care about the outcome. These two states more often than not lead to one doing a shoddy job. However, in many occasions these ‘type-B’ comrades are often ‘lucky’ to scoop high marks in the assignments. As time goes by, a culture of last minute rush is bred among the students. In the longrun, the university is accused of churning out ‘half-baked’ graduates who are unfit for the job market. This is because the comrades fail to understand the assignments and classwork since they copy-paste the assignments from one another before submission and use mwakenyas during CATs and exams. After all, degree ni harambee!

However, as a responsible being, one needs to understand that time is money and that time lost is never recovered. Time management is one of the most important if not the most important skill that one needs to have in life. In my quest to research on how best I could manage my time, I came across a book titled The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People written by the late Stephen R. Covey. What impressed me most on how one can manage his time well was the use of four quadrants divided as follows:

  • Quadrant I: Urgent & Important (For immediate and important deadlines).
  • Quadrant II: Not Urgent & Important (For long-term strategy and development).
  • Quadrant III: Urgent & Not Important (For distractions based on time pressure).
  • Quadrant IV: Not Urgent & Not Important (For activities yielding little value).

For most people, their activities are in quadrant I and III. According to Covey, quadrant II is the most important yet the most underused. In order to yield maximum returns from any task undertaken, one needs to work both tactically and strategically at the same time as emphasized in quadrant II. For more information on how to use the quadrants, please click on the following link

As I conclude, it is important for us to understand the value of time. Good time management requires that one maintains a schedule. For example, as a student, one will need to set key milestones that will help him/her complete his/her assignments in time and at the same time understand the course work. The golden rule is to understand one’s priorities. Moreover, the bottomline is that we need to schedule our priorities before prioritizing our schedule.