Start With Why

My current read is Simon Sinek’s Start With Why. I appreciate the fact that I am reading the book now that we are just hours away from entering into a new decade. Funnily enough, I was supposed to have finished reading this book back in 2014 but I just cannot figure out what happened along the way up until now when the decade is at its edge. I guess it is because I entered the autopilot mode and found it hard to push myself into finding time to flip through the pages. Anyway, the vital thing is that finally, I have landed my hands on the book and so far, I have accomplished significant milestones towards ensuring that I finish the book and most importantly apply the lessons learned.

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There are aspirations, motivations, dreams that often “disturb” us in our youth. At this stage, majority of the individuals are still finding ways to achieve stability. There is also the desire for security. One of the ways though which individuals find security is through the establishment of routines. The most likely reason for developing a routine is to guarantee safety in times of uncertainty. The likely result of a routine is the establishment of an autopilot program within our systems and before we know it, we find ourselves asking questions such as, “How did I even get here?” “Why is all this happening now?” The question then becomes how do we avoid entering the downward spiral? Perhaps, the starting point of solving this question is to approach situations with the “why” in mind.

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Starting with “why” inspires a call to action within us. It paints a clear picture of the end that we desire out of our actions. It also helps maintain focus as one pursues the desired end. In the book, the author gives a case in point where a select team of American automobile makers visited an assembly line in Japan for benchmarking. Everything that both the American and Japanese automakers did during the assembly process was the same except that the Japanese had a difference in the final step of fitting the doors into the automobiles. The Americans had a line worker taking a rubber mallet and tap the edges of the door to ensure that it fit perfectly but to the Japanese, this procedure was absent. Puzzled by this finding, the American automakers asked the Japanese how sure they were that the doors would fit. The reply of the Japanese was that they ensured the doors fits when they design them.

From the above case example, it is evident that the Japanese engineered the outcome they wanted right from the beginning. Perhaps, we could also use this approach to design how we approach the various situations in our lives. For a start, we could use it in how we approach our days. We could also apply it in goal setting. In essence, the desire for order calls for clarity and one of the ways of being clear in our approach to tasks is by starting with why in mind.

There are other two anchoring parts that help in ensuring the “why” is clear. These parts are the “how” and the “what”. Together, the “why,” the “how,” and the “what” form The Golden Circle –  a critical model to approaching and handling tasks. Even though the author explains the application of The Golden Circle in corporate entities and organizations, there is still room for it to be applied in our daily lives. Essentially, The Golden Circle predicts and finds order in human behavior. It is a crucial tool in helping people understand why they do what they do. A demystification of The Golden Circle highlights how much more can be achieved if we bring ourselves to the point where we start everything we do by first asking why. The “why” aspect of the circle gives us a purpose, a cause, and a belief that then drives us into commitment towards a particular course of action. The “how” aspect outlines the approach we use to accomplish the task before us. The “what” aspect outlines the various actions we use to attain the tasks at hand.

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As we go into the new decade, we ought to approach our days and whatever tasks that lie ahead of us with why. “Why should I choose this instead of that?” “Why should I take on that project?” “Why should I study this course and not that one?” and the list goes on and on. Perhaps, the outcomes of our decisions would be more clear owing to the fact that we designed them by first asking why. Our autopilot mode would also be positive when we approach our days using The Golden Circle. Eventually, we shall install predictable steps into attaining our goals if we follow the tenets of The Golden Circle. Start each task with why and at the end of it all you will be better placed to achieve the desired outcome.

Happy New Year and Happy New Decade in advance!

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Execution

Wow! It’s been a while! First things first, Happy New Year and Happy New Month!

Away from the niceties and into the central theme of this article. So, today I would like to handle a critical matter, that is, execution. I felt the urge to begin my writing this year with an important subject that really separates leaders from followers, the successful from the unsuccessful, the rich from the poor, and the wise from fools. In one way or the other, execution is one of the most significant elements to success in any field. Time and again, we have heard that “procrastination is the thief of time.” Also, we know that procrastination is the silent killer of man’s deepest dreams yet we still find ourselves pushing forward a significant activity. How many times have we backed out of important but not urgent matters? In any case, what often makes us fail to spring into action may be fear, paralysis by analysis, or the discouragement concerning the effort that we need to put into attaining the success. At other times, it may be the lack of enthusiasm or drive to just get it done.

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On a lighter note, I read someone’s post on social media where he had written that the year often begins in March; January and February serve as a period of reminiscing the past year and also as a grace period for preparing to enter into the new year. Funny weird, isn’t it? It is easy to conclude that such comments come from a lack of enthusiasm and motivation to seize the day. In effect, inaction breeds immobility and yet time and tide wait for no man! We ought to be in action, but this does not mean that we just move around aimlessly without a purpose. We need to have a purpose and to attain this purpose, we ought to set goals. To accomplish the goals, we need to execute the steps necessary to achieve them. Ever heard of the quote which says, “Dreams without goals are just dreams…and they fuel disappointments.” We hate disappointments, right?

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The Good Book tells us that, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” [Proverbs 4:7, KJV]. So, in the above scripture, we have two elements – Wisdom and Understanding. The latter is gotten as people gain knowledge. We know that wisdom and knowledge go hand in hand. However, there is an important factor that connects the two. This factor is execution. Even as man searches for knowledge, there is the need for them to appreciate that the wisdom is in the execution! If you cannot put into practice (execute) what you learn, then the knowledge becomes useless.

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Imagine you are an archer and you have really prepared well for a particular global tournament. When you win the competition, you get to walk home with a fortune. So, the tournament is held in an arena as large as the Wembley Stadium and is being broadcasted worldwide. It is your turn to march on to the field and take your shots. The only challenge is that there is no target! What! After all the preparations you walk into a competition, and there is no target? Well, that’s madness, isn’t it? Well, that’s how a large portion of the world is today! Shocked? Yes, we have many people with all the knowledge in the world, but they do not know where to apply it! It is said that the greatest tragedy in life is not death but a life without purpose.

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Knowing one’s purpose is the first step to living a great life. However, we also have individuals who know their purpose, but they have a rough time living their destiny. They have all the knowledge concerning the direction they should take but are still unsuccessful. In essence, their outward life does not portray who they are on the inside. On the inside, they may be having all the knowledge concerning their specialization, but on the outside, they are unsuccessful in their profession. Mercy! One of the challenges could be that they are poor in applying the knowledge they possess. Yes, we all desire to be wise. However, in our pursuit for wisdom, we face a lot of hurdles that at times make us play low in the name of sparing ourselves the blushes. However, there is a remedy for all that. The power lies in the execution. Simply put, “gaining knowledge is good, but wisdom is in the execution/application of whatever one has learned.” Also, “Knowledge is power but knowledge without action is useless.”

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Indeed, wisdom is the principal thing. We could go on and on expounding on the subject, but I choose to leave it at this point. Well, wisdom is knowing your strengths and weaknesses and taking the necessary actions to improve further. So, for a long time, I have been battling with execution. It has been a struggle not only in business but also in life. From time to time, I was wondering why my life was not improving despite all the effort I put in gaining knowledge only to know that I was poor when it came to execution. However, now I have a clear picture of my weakness.
For a start, I have begun reading Larry Bossidy and Ram Charan’s book titled, “Execution – The Discipline of Getting Things Done.” I have not gone past chapter one, and I am already learning a lot. In the book, Bossidy and Charan investigate how great leaders are masters of execution. In essence, they state that most companies struggle to make great strides because they are weak at execution. My reason for reading the book is to help revive my side-hustle which is in the negative zone despite having a great strategy and a grand master plan.

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Even you today, you can identify areas in your life where you have failed to take appropriate action and begin to move. Remember, wisdom and power lie in the execution. Also, remember that the knowing is in the doing. And when you are overwhelmed, remember to seek assistance. Indeed, there is no shame in asking for help.

Happy Execution folks!

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Bonus Thought

We have a lot of self-improvement books, and we also have a lot of motivational speakers. In the present age where technology is transforming the way we live, we also have motivational channels and accounts. So, we are well equipped with the knowledge we need to live a great life. However, the challenge lies in the execution. Yes, the information we get from all the books, channels, accounts, and the people around us would not work unless we apply it, period! Even the reading of the scripture and listening to sermons would not work unless you work it out! At times, the results may take longer to manifest, but one thing is for sure, the right execution techniques will yield the desired results.

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Mind shift during crisis…

On a day like this last week, fuel supply stations across the country increased their fuel prices owing to the retention of 16% VAT on fuel tax by the government. This would then lead to a significant rise in the price of commodities and services across various sectors of our economy. Essentially, the transport sector was the first to raise the fare prices because they are primarily dependent on fuel to conduct their errands. If at all the president is to assent to the Finance Bill 2018 which also includes the 16% VAT fuel tax, then we would witness the continued rise in the price of other commodities and rates. One week later and we are still yet to come to terms with the new way of life. We are anticipating the return of our President from his foreign trip hoping that indeed he will save a nation by rejecting the bill. Indeed, tough times call for new measures.

There is one thing that has become unique among Kenyans – creating humor out of just anything! Every time we are undergoing a particular crisis, we cannot fail to find jokes associated with it. In this case, we hear individuals saying that there is one specific region that hasn’t complained about the recent rise of the fuel prices only because they are waiting on the jet fuel prices to rise before they start throwing stones (hehe!). Many memes have been generated in relation to our current fuel crisis.

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Away from the fuel crisis and onto the main agenda of this post. Well, today I want to focus on how this crisis is a blessing in disguise. In the past, before bodabodas became common in our suburbs, we used to trek to our homes without taking into various factors into consideration. Our main agenda was to reach home – period! These days, you cannot walk in any suburb without hearing the irritating beeps of a speeding motorcycle or even spotting some riders riding past you without an ounce of care. We have gotten accustomed to riding home merely because the price they charge is within our means. However, with the current fuel crisis, this is bound to change. We are about to witness a situation where some individuals would prefer walking rather than hopping on a motorcycle because of a fare rise. It is at this point that I feel like bubbling, “Brethren, count it all joy as you get used to this new lifestyle of walking, as each step shapes you up and brings you out of lifestyle diseases!” Indeed, walking is a simple form of exercise that we do subconsciously. It would be of great help to the society to see more people embracing walking out of the current fuel crisis.

In more developed suburban areas, we have feeder roads that are tarmacked or fitted with cabro works. Essentially, this could present one with a chance to learn a new skill – skating. Yes! You could embrace skating as a new skill. I have a friend who set skating as one of his 2018 resolutions and true to it, he has moved from knocking knees to amateur status. I am sure most of us dream of skating one day yet we often find excuses for not engaging in it. However, this crisis could present you with the opportunity to begin skating classes. Hurry up! What are you waiting for?

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Skating at Aga Khan Walk / Kenyanstar.co.ke

Besides skating, there is also cycling. In Kenya, cycling to work is seen as a lower income class activity while in the developed nations such as the Netherlands, it is regarded to be nobler to cycle rather than drive a car! (Well, two worlds apart there!) In fact, last year in October, Netherlands Prime Minister rode a bicycle to the Royal Palace for a high profile meeting with the King of Netherlands! Is that even possible in Kenya? Picture this, Governors riding bicycles to meet with the President, huh? or Parliamenterians riding bicycles to the National Assembly and the Senate, really? Ahem! I am looking forward to that day when cycling to work would be the new in-thing.  A time when we would not be pressured to acquire the latest Mercedes or Subaru model; a moment in time when we would all be glad to cycle to work together not minding how the day will turn out to be but just enjoying the ride to work (tour de job eh!). Well, as of now, these visions remain to be just a fairy tale.

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Netherlands Prime Minister, Mark Rutte rides bicycle to Royal Palace! / Premium Times

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New Zealands Minister for Women rode to hospital to give birth to her first child. / MPR News

Nevertheless, if the fuel crisis is to persist, we are likely to witness more individuals walking to cover short distances that they would have been glad to board a matatu or hop on a bodaboda before. As they walk, it would be prudent that they use that time wisely by engaging in constructive activities such as listening to informative podcasts or even an audio book. Essentially, they would be killing two birds with one stone (Oh no! Not even two but three birds – exercise for the body as they walk, building up of their mind as they listen to the podcast or audiobook, and accomplishing their main goal that is, reaching their destination).

 

 

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Various individuals listening to podcasts and audiobooks while on the move.

 

Indeed, the fuel crisis is laden with blessings in disguise only if we choose to take a look at the bigger picture. Taking up skating is an opportunity to tick off one of the activities found in the bucket lists of many individuals while walking is a great chance to exercise and hence overcome lifestyle diseases in the long run. On the other hand, embracing cycling as a mode of transport could see a revolution in the transport sector in that we would not worry about air pollution. Nonetheless, listening to audiobooks during walks would lead to the birth of healthy and wise individuals. So, what’s your point of view?

5-4-3-2-1-GO!!

By the time I am writing this, I am sure that we are all guilty of playing one dangerous game. That game involves “resting our eyes for a further five minutes” before waking up. This game is successfully orchestrated where we often set our alarms on a five-minute or ten-minute snooze delays depending on our preferred settings. Woe unto you if you are in employment and fail in this game! I do not want to explain how the rest of your day goes. If you are successful in this game, well done to you because you are a winner!

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Okay, let’s move away from the dangerous game and look into other events in our lives. Have you ever been indecisive when faced with certain situations? These situations could involve choosing what to eat in a fancy restaurant, choosing what to wear to special corporate evening dinner, or even seizing the moment to talk to that gorgeous lady that you have been planning to take out on a date. In most instances, indecisiveness makes us settle for less than that which we desire.

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On another note, indecisiveness makes us ineffective and inefficient. For instance, at your workplace, you may be contemplating on whether you should make a call or send out an e-mail to a particular client. Nonetheless, you could be in a meeting and you feel this burning desire within you to propose a particular point of view but before you know it, the manager has already moved to the next agenda and you are left to “die” with your proposal. Your work could also involve sourcing for new clients, and so you may be on your commute, and you spot a prospective client, but then one thing keeps you from pitching your idea to them. This thing is often indecisiveness that is plagued by the fear of the outcome – rejection.

Besides indecisiveness, there is another type of habit that makes us ineffective and inefficient. This habit is characterized by the feeling of not wanting to do something that you ought to do. Some individuals may call it laziness. For instance, you may walk into your room and find out that there is a quite large pile of laundry that needs to be done or worse still a huge collection of dirty cutlery and utensils. Frequently, you may not feel like cleaning the items especially if there are still clean ones that can be used at the moment.

So what are you to do to overcome the inefficiencies and ineffectiveness that are brought about by indecisiveness and the feeling of not wanting to do what you ought to do? Well, there is a solution. And the answer is simple yet so hard. The solution is this – the 5-second rule. The proponent of this rule is Mel Robbins, a renowned motivational and keynote speaker. In essence, the rule is summarized as follows: “If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds, or your brain will kill it.” This means, if you are meant to take a certain action, you ought to act within 5 seconds or else you won’t take any action. To fight the hesitation that often comes before you take a certain action, Robbins proposes that you should count 5-4-3-2-1-GO and move towards action. Easy, you may say. However, the challenge comes because you have to deal with “you,” you who within whom lies all the excuses and the triggers of hesitation! So, you need to push yourself into action the moment you reach the 1-GO stage lest you remain stagnant.

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What makes the rule effective is that it tricks the brain into doing things that it would normally not do. The reason why 5 seconds is chosen is because there is a 5-second window between when we have an instinct to act and our brain coming up with excuses as to why we should not take action. The reason for counting backwards 5-4-3-2-1 is that the process requires our focus and concentration. Additionally, counting backwards wakes up our prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex switches our mind onto the decision-making process.

Let us get back to the beginning of this post and look at snoozing. For a long time, Robbins was having a difficult time waking up in the morning. It is only when she began applying the 5-second rule that she overcame the challenge. I was also having the same challenge waking up in the morning. It seemed like my bedding had conspired to make me enter the comfort zone and miss out on my morning routine! However, since I began applying the rule, waking up has become so easy. So at this point, I would like to pose a challenge to you that starting tomorrow morning; you will apply the 5-second rule when you encounter difficulty when waking up. I would be glad to hear your feedback.

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Waking up without snoozing (Credits: Runtastic)

This rule is effective in overcoming the hesitation and indecisiveness that we face each moment that we are on the brink of taking action. There are situations where the rule operates on the premise: action now regrets later. These situations are those whose outcomes you are unsure of such as pitching to new clients or even talking to a lady that you have been admiring for a long time. In most cases, there are no regrets but joy for having taken action!

 

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Right: A successful date

Robbins opines that if you did things that you did not feel like doing, then you will have everything that you ever wanted. This is the motivating factor that ought to push you into applying the 5-second rule. Or best still, everything that you have ever wanted is on the other side of fear. On the same breath, I would like to state that everything that you have ever wanted is on the other side of indecisiveness. For instance, getting that client to sign up for that policy or even getting to take out that charming lady on a date or even proposing a certain idea during a tense corporate meeting or even talking to strangers. All the desired results lie on the other side of fear and indecisiveness.

So that is it on overcoming the challenge of waking up in the morning, indecisiveness, ineffectiveness and inefficiencies. Remember, 5-4-3-2-1-GO!

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5-second rule visual summary (credits: Visual Synopsis).

More info concerning the 5-second rule may be found at: https://melrobbins.com/

 

 

Hiatus

Wow! Just wow! What a while it has been!

Sincerely, I missed blogging. It has almost been a year since I last composed a blog post (314 days to be precise). Well, I attribute it to a hiatus, a hiatus pegged with many factors: work, travel, reading, business, and worse of it all – writer’s block.

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On the one hand, I would say it was necessary that I have the long break from what I used to do best. On the other hand, I feel that I have missed out on a lot regarding the advancement of the mckanyanga brand. Essentially, this is the first blog post for 2018! Just imagine what I have missed for the past eight months!

The hiatus has taught me about life’s brevity. There are so many moments I told myself that I was going to finish the next part of Almost doesn’t count. I had even mapped out the story’s outline. However, I just could not come up with the words to fill it up! I was stuck. I suffered the writer’s block. There are other moments that I wrote a paragraph, and before I knew it, I had hit the backspace key to clear it! I could not feel the flow of the words. I could not make sense of what I was writing. Many writers will tell you that they often have to feel the flow and make sense of their work before they publish and share it with their audience.

During the hiatus, I have learned significant lessons about life which I would like to share with you.

It is okay to be tired, but never to give up

“I think that writing/business/ministry/accounting/sport/law [insert any pursuit here] is not my thing…”

Many are the times we have heard people complain that a particular profession, pursuit, or job is not their thing. In most cases, they reach this point after a long period of trying here and there. It is common to hear them say,

“I did everything right, I followed the rules, I put all my effort, I dedicated myself to the course, but things are not working out at all!”

Perhaps, such comments are made when one is tired, and their mind is clouded with negative energy as a result of the toil. During such time, it is necessary to unplug and do whatever you like – taking a walk, cooking your favorite meal, munching your favorite snack, watching your favorite series, or even listening to soothing music. Such activities have the effect of “deceiving” your mind into forgetting the negative and focusing on the good vibes only.

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Remember that it is never that serious. Being tired is okay. Being tired makes us human. In essence, being tired shows that you are putting in the work and that is good! However, take care not to be chocked up in the negative mood that is brought about by fatigue. In this case, the main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing – focusing on your work.

The break is necessary

When one suffers a writer’s block, they cannot achieve much. It is at this point that taking a break becomes handy. The break is necessary because it helps calm down your mind. Research shows that the brain generates fascinating ideas when it is at rest. As a writer, one of the most important assets to have is a creative mind, and that mind is often achieved when one is at rest. It is advisable that one writes up the fascinating ideas that come through their mind during the break. These notes are necessary for coming up with future blog posts.

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Perhaps, breaks are essential in clearing up your mind and hence enable you to come up with better ideas. Additionally, taking a break is instrumental in shaping up your view of the world. In essence, during the break, you tend to focus on other things besides writing, and these activities influence you to see the world from a different viewpoint. Besides, these other activities may give you the answers or inspiration that is needed to fuel your passion.

So, the next time you feel stuck, remember to unplug from what you are doing and take that break.

Consistency is key

Consistency, or lack thereof, can be the defining factor between failure or success. Let’s say that I decide to do a blog post every fortnight and stick with it; it would somewhat be predictable for you to check into my blog for a new post, wouldn’t it?

Consistency enables you to measure your performance. For instance, in the above case where I choose to blog every fortnight, it would be right to say that I would come up with two blog posts every month and twenty-four in a year. My work would somewhat be predictable, and this would prompt me to come up with the best pieces.

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Besides, consistency breeds accountability. Perhaps, if I know that I should have a blog post two weeks from now, I will start coming up with an outline soon. I would not want to miss the satisfaction that comes with the successful completion of the blog post. This satisfaction and the desire to be consistent in coming up with blog posts would be the catalysts that will enhance my accountability.

Do not chase the result

Your whole focus ought to be on the process. In writing, there is the tendency to focus on the number of likes to your blog post, the target reach, the number of individuals visiting your blog, and the money you make out of writing. It is worth noting that these parameters are not the main goal. I was guilty of focusing on the result, and I was frustrated when I never got the anticipated feedback. Eventually, I forgot the passion, the first love – writing.

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What I appreciate is that I have learned my lesson. When you focus on chasing the result, you will rarely get them. Instead, you ought to focus on the “why” of your work. Perhaps, it could be to inspire lives of teenagers out there or to guide first-time parents on how to raise their first child.

Remember, chasing after things and results only produces a tiring life. Essentially, focus on the “why,” and in no time, individuals will recognize it and start giving you what you are seeking – be it likes, readership, or money.

Have fun

During the hiatus, I invested more time into my business. It is less than a year old and is yet to break even. Of course, as a businessman, there are other great businessmen that I look up to for inspiration. One of them is Sir Richard Branson. Branson is known for his mighty exploits in business through his company named Virgin. I happened to study his autobiography titled Losing My Virginity (I am not talking about what you think here), and one of the essential lessons that I have learned is that you got to enjoy the process. Branson prides himself in having fun at work. If you look at the company’s structure, it is evident that he prioritizes the needs of the employees. He understands the importance of having fun in attaining the desired results. Well, I also transferred the same idea into my work plan. I would rather have fun while writing than being grumpy and grinding out an unsatisfactory piece of writing.

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Well, that’s it. Remember the break is necessary but do not give up yet. Consistency matters. Focus on your passion and have fun while at it.

Cheers!

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Almost doesn’t count….

“……….Here’s a little song I wrote
You might want to sing it note for note
Don’t worry, be happy
In every life we have some trouble
When you worry you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy………….”

The above is the opening verse to Bobby Mcferrin’s song titled, “Don’t worry, be happy.”

PHASE II:

Thursday, 4th August 2016.

Tick tock! Tick tock!
Teren! Teren!

“..Dear Candidate,
Congratulations on passing the Aptitude test.
You are invited for a company Presentation and Interviews on :

Date: 5th August, Friday, Time: 08:00 a.m.
Confirm your attendance by replying to this E-Mail
Keep time
Fill the attached Questionnaire and send it back by4th August together with your resume….”

The email read.

What a relief it was! You mean I passed the test despite all that Russian roulette?

Heheh, Bryan! We ni ule msee!” I confidently whispered to myself as I thumped my chest in delight like King Kong.

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A critic would say it is not over until it is over. They would also say that that did not mean I got the job. Pause!

It was on a windy Thursday, 9.09 am. to be precise, when I received the email inviting me for the interview. As a prerequisite for any interview preparation, I expeditiously research on the company’s interview process. What I find out concerning the company is shocking! Have you ever been scared to the roots of your existence? Have you ever felt confused like a maggot in a collapsed latrine?

“What is 9647 multiplied by 312?”

“What is the cube root of 405234?”

“What is the square of 641?”

“What is the square root of 7586?”

Well, these are the types of questions asked in the company’s interview. Each is to be answered in less than 10 seconds. To make matters worse, one is supposed to calculate them without a pen and paper! Kwani, am I going to be hired as the company’s calculator? I stood there puzzled like Kobe Bryant in a tight basketball match. Eish! That is not what I signed up for! Surely, are these people even realistic?

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A puzzled Kobe Bryant

Oh! No! Damn it! For a moment, I contemplated missing the interview because that is not what I signed up for. However, what prompted me to proceed with the preparation is the sacrifice I made on Tuesday. Do you want to know what the sacrifice entailed? Well, you will know it soon.

“What is the length of this room?”

“What is the height of this building?”

“How many computers are there in our office?”

“If I were to give you $5,000 would you jump off the 7th floor of this building?”

The questions got crazier.

“If I were to give you $3,000 would you go out there in the street and kiss any random lady?

Enhe! Kwani was I auditioning for “Naswa” or “Kaa Rada?”

The four-lettered word that begins with an “S” got real. The types of questions asked by the company were not the conventional ones like:

“Why should we hire you?”

“Where do you see yourself in the next five years?”

“Why do you want to work here?”

No way! They were different. Sooner or later, different scares people. I was as scared as a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs (you never want to imagine the fate of the tail, heheh). It is at that moment that I recollected Hessy’s words, “utajua haujui” and they rang deafeningly in my head to the point that I became thoughtless.

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How frustrated I felt.

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Just then, an idea struck my mind. I logged into Youtube and searched for multiplication tricks. I searched for “square root tricks,” “how to find the cube root of a number in 3 seconds,” “how to multiply 4 digit and 3 digit numbers in 5 seconds.” For a moment, I felt like a Form 1 student being asked to take on KCSE after a single term in school. I just could not get the tricks. Besides feeling frustrated, I reminisced campus moments when we used to run to Youtube for quick fixes especially on topics such as Markov Chain Analysis, Kolmogorov Complexity, and Stochastic Modeling.

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Markov Analysis

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1.07 pm. Damn! Time was moving as fast as an old maid trying to catch a bridal bouquet. I decided to tackle the questionnaire. Things got thick! I seemed to be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. I felt as muddled as a man trying to understand how women work.

Knock! Knock!

I tried to guess who was on the door. Well, I first imagined that it was the caretaker by virtue of the date and day. On opening the door, I saw my longtime friend. He looked hyper. I wonder what psyched him up and for a moment I wished that I could feel the same way.

“Buda, rada ni gani leo?” He entreated as he boxed my shoulder. I nearly fell (of course you know why).

“Eish, boss iko nini? Ugoigoi nini? Ata umekula kweli? Mbona mnyonge kama fan wa Asenali ivi?”

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Frustrated Arsenal Fan

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I scratched my unkempt and nearly-dreadlocked hair as I answered him,“Ustakejua buda. Kuna interview moto hapa joh! Ndio najipanga joh. Siko rada ata. Yaani nko nje design ya Wenger.” (Lol! We usually enjoy dissing Wenger and Arsenal in general).

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A quashed Arsene Wenger.

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“Mguyz, usiwahi-tense. Interview tu? Heheh. Achanga izo. Form ni kuchillax na kungoja ikam vile itakam,” he remarked encouragingly.

“Ehe!” I snickered.

If only he knew the ‘trouble’ that I was in then, he would have given me heart in a better way.

I wanted to shut him up but I could not. I just decided to “bite the lemon and swallow the bitter juice” (kuuma ndimu lol!).

“By the way nko na bike!” He retorted suggestively.

Now what? Damn! It had been over a decade since the last time I rode a bicycle like silly.

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Mountain Bike.

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“Good idea!” I responded assertively.

“Iko wapi nitoe stress nayo?” I asked.

“Cheki hiyo kitu,” he answered as he pointed at it through the window.

“MTB! Wow! Nooma design ya very,” I answered as I quickly went down the steps to have a ride.

The bike was light and comfy to ride. Wow! What a nice feeling. To me, the ride proved true the saying that goes, “you never know what you’ve been missing till it arrives.” Indeed, I had missed a bicycle ride.

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A Maasai man riding a bicycle joyfully.

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5.22 pm. 3 hours later.

I came back to the house feeling wasted away after hours of a fun ride around the neighbourhood. For a moment, I had suppressed the feelings of anxiety and tension. However, as scientists say, the act of resisting emotions is the act of granting it life.

“Acha niende ninyoe. Kesho ni nomareh! Si tuendanishe hivi,” I suggested as we left the house.

“Chillax buda. By the way, niliday kukushow that wasee hupatana hapo kwetu ku-fellowship pamoja kila Thursday. Sa si tushuke hivi angalau uulize Sir God akuokole kesho,”

“Eish buda! Manze time imeenda na siko rada bado. Itabidi nikutume na prayer request yangu joh! This is a do or die situation. Nielewe tu!” I begged.

“Cheki buda falai! Unafanyaje Sir Jah awe optional? Muombe na atakuhelp. Heheh wacha tension joh! Aminia!” he encouraged me.

“Zi!” I retorted, “Muniombee tu. Ntaatend next time.”

“Haina noma. Lakini usikuange hivyo. Huyu ni Sir Jah. Si wa kuchezewa ka besteako.” he replied.

He accompanied me to the barbershop as I instructed the barber get me a ‘jordan’ haircut. As the barber continued to gladly shave my head, I reminisced those days in the lower primary when the default haircut was ‘jordan.’  As I reminisced, I just wondered at how time has flown and at how far I had come from.

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A kid getting the jordan haircut.

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9.37 pm. Tensed night.

“Take this number and find out the next odd number and write it beside the number…” Whatever the hell that is….

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I was still streaming Youtube videos like the one above. As time flew second by second, I grew pale and tensed as a tree in a hurricane. I knew I stood no chance. Then a thought crossed my mind, well you got nothing to lose Bryan! I encouraged myself.

10.04 pm. Moments to happy hour in slumberland.

“That’s enough Bryan. Don’t worry, be happy!” I murmured to myself encouragingly as I bounced to Bobby McFerrin’s  “Be Happy.”

 

Bobby Mcferrin’s Don’t worry, Be happy

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I counter-checked whether I had filled the questionnaire as required.

Shirt, check! Trouser, check! Certificates, check! Transcripts, check! Stationery, check! Mwakenya, check! (Heheh, ata interview mtu huhitaji mwakenya lol!)

I was warily ready for the next day – let me call it – the scariest day of my life.

10.27 pm.

Lights out.

To be continued………

Almost doesn’t count..

“…..Almost made you love me, almost made you cry

Almost made you happy, baby, didn’t I, didn’t I?

You almost had me thinking you were turned around

But everybody knows, almost doesn’t count……”

The above is the opening verse to Brandy’s song titled “Almost doesn’t count.”

PHASE I:

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016.

I wake up rather late for the test. Anyway, who cares? Aptitude tests have always been a piece of cake to me, or rather, as easy as ABC. I had always longed for that day that I shall step into PWC towers, and that day had come only that I was not going to PWC. Mark you, I had attempted the PWC aptitude test, and I failed, and it became the first one in my life that I had ever failed.

 

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PWC Towers at Waiyaki Way, Westlands, Nairobi.

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So today I am at the PWC towers on a different mission but the same agenda – to get employed. I had almost given up on the company because I had applied for the vacancy over two months ago and there was no communication from them regarding whether they had received my application. However, right now, all that is in the past. At least, I am glad that I have been invited for the first phase of recruitment.

I enter the fully packed room at exactly 8.47 a.m. At the reception, I can spot a tough looking security guard. If he were an American, he would simply pass for an ex-Navy Seal. There seemed to be no trace of warmth around him as I approached the reception desk.

“Confirm your name on this list and sign against it,” he commanded (I must use the word “command” by virtue of his description).

I manage to locate my name, and I append my signature with the utmost confidence. It seemed like I was signing a 221 million cheque (if you know what I mean, heheh) written in my favor. I then proceed to the next room as I await further instructions.

So we are like 100 contestants. I can spot schoolmates and classmates from campus. We exchange pleasantries and our conversations center on tarmacking.

“Ata wewe bado unatarmack?” One of them asks inquiringly.

“Hivyo ndio kunaendanga, heheh,” I mutter sarcastically.

In two shakes of a lamb’s tail, our conversations and interactions are cut short by a lady’s modulated voice from the sound system within the building. We are instructed to take all our luggage into a separate room and get ready for the test.

“Who carries luggage to an aptitude test?” I ask myself sardonically.

Surely, who does that? (In DJ Shiti’s voice).

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DJ Shiti of The Real Housewives of Kawangware.

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After the preparation commotion is over, we enter a room full of computers and sophisticated workstations. Oooh! Where have you been all my life?

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A day trader’s workstation.

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Immediately, I begin to see myself trading behind one of the workstations. Swiftly, I move from dreamland into reality. The reality is that I have to pass the aptitude and probably three face-to-face interviews before I live my dream of trading behind one of the machines.

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Traders office set-up.

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We then sit behind the computers. We are then issued with passwords to the aptitude system. Then a plump lady walks into the room. She is wearing a brown official lady suit. Her hair, although shorter, reminds me of Whitney Houston’s curly locks when she released her album titled Whitney in 1987. I’m sure members of that SACCO are satisfied by what they see in her even though time and again we know that they never get satisfied. Their modus operandi is usually, “onto the next one.”

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The late Whitney Houston in 1987 when she released an album titled Whitney.

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Based on the instructions she gives us, I guess that she is the HR manager. I say so because she kept referring to a set of instructions that had been attached to the email inviting us to the aptitude test. She finally gives us the go ahead.

The test is to last for 40 minutes only, and it is composed of mathematical and observation questions. I know you are wondering what observation questions are. Okay, these are the questions that test one’s observation skills. For instance, you may be given a box full of words which are written in different colors, and you are instructed to observe the box carefully. Then after you answer three to four mathematical questions, you are asked to identify which one of the words are written with the wrong color. That’s a tough challenge, isn’t it?

As we continue solving the questions, some of the employees begin streaming in. I manage to find the opportunity to steal glances at them. Based on what I see, I can tell that there is a sense of freedom. It seems like the employees are given the liberty to operate based on their free will. It also seems like they are free to wear what they want. I am particularly impressed by one of them who is dressed in a pair of shorts and casual sandals. He drags himself to the coffee vending machine.

Focus! Bryan! Focus!

Back to the test. The questions are tough as that four-letter word. I regret saying that aptitudes are easy. Anyway, I encourage myself through adopting a positive mindset. At some points, I am forced to trust my gut feeling. Being a phlegmatic, I also use my sense of intuition in solving some questions. What motivates me to play Russian roulette with the questions is the long known trick of succeeding in any aptitude exam – finish all the questions.

“Chicago report coming in. I repeat, Chicago report coming in. Check mail. Over and out.”

A silken, sensuous, rumbling baritone voice is heard emanating from the room’s public address system. You know that kind of masculine voice that can make a lady’s knees to wobble like jelly? Yes, that’s what I’m talking about. I guess our sisters from another mother could not get enough of the voice. To put things clear, the voice sounded like Barry White’s (Do you really know what he did using his voice?). I guess they would have wished for him to talk on and on. Anyway, who am I to be quick to judge?

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The late Barry White.

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At the 40th minute, the chubby HR manager orders us to stop. From where I am, I can see that the room is half empty. I guess some of the contestants gave up on the way. But then again, who am I to be too quick to jump to extraneous conclusions? Well, blame it on my phlegmatic nature. What a relief!

To be continued……

[NB: The story is to be written in three phases].

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Do dreams mean something?

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Have you ever woken up in the morning with a dozen-load of questions in your mind like Hell no! What was that? What did I just dream? Is that even me? Is that even possible?

Indeed, dreams take us away from reality, and that is what they are – dreams. If dreams were a reality, then everyone would be that millionaire, or that famous Hollywood actor, or that great politician. Likewise, everyone would own that jet, or that tower, or the latest Ferrari model. In short, if we were to live in dreamland, we would all have attained our desires.

Dreams are there to make life worth living. The dreams we experience at night while sleeping are a product of what lies in our subconscious. According to scientists, the subconscious is the most powerful portion of our brains. As a matter of fact, the subconscious is smarter than we might think. Most of the times, we feel that we are in control especially when our brains figure out puzzles or read words. However, we should understand that this capability comes from our conscious mind. We should also understand that the subconscious can prepare simple stimulus-response actions, deliver basic facts, recognize objects and carry out practiced movements hence perform functions that would prove a challenge to the conscious thought.

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Importance of the Subconscious Mind

Humans daydream, and that is normal. However, we should not be carried away by the daydreams. During these sessions, we see ourselves in another state that we desire. To a large extent, this state is always contrary to our reality. At night, we lie down in our beds and also experience dreams. Indeed, dreams play a significant role in our lives. Georg Kaiser said, “If we couldn’t dream, our lives wouldn’t mean anything anymore.” Another great man said, “A life without dreams is like a garden without flowers.” So, dreams give meaning to life.

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The reason for writing this blogpost is simple and a rather funny one. I had a weird dream that made me jerk out of my bed to try and find its meaning. I was roaming out and about in the countryside. I then entered grandpa’s house, and there I saw a rabbit that had just given birth to two kits. The kits were having a peaceful bonding session with their mother when suddenly a cat appeared and devoured one of the kits. I could feel a violent, uncontrollable anger rise within me in my sleep. I hit the cat using a hoe killing it instantly. Mysteriously, I found myself in the airport talking to a high school classmate who was then a pilot. We reminisced memories from school, and just as we were about to board the plane, I woke up. Nkt! Why do dreams have to come to an end during the intriguing moments?

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After waking up, I set out to find the meaning of the dream, and this is what I discovered:

  1. If you ever dream of vehicles whether it is a car, an airplane, a train or a ship, the vehicles in our dream can reflect what direction we feel our life is taking, and how much control we think we have over the path ahead of us. Vehicles can give us the power to make a transition and envision ourselves getting to our destination — or highlight the obstacles we think we are facing and need to work through (huffingtonpost.com).
  2. Seeing other people in your dream often is a reflection of the different aspects of the self. The people in dreams can relate to characteristics that need to be developed. Specific people directly relate to existing relationships or interpersonal issues we need to work through (huffingtonpost.com).
  3. Dreaming of a baby often represents something new: It might be a new idea, a new project at work, new development or the potential for growth in a specific area of our waking life (huffingtonpost.com). [In this case, I had a dream about baby rabbits].

Wow! Wonderful! Isn’t it? So the dream meant that I have control over the path that lies ahead of me and that I should reach out to that friend to help me take charge of the next phase of my life. On the rabbit dream, I concluded that I should start rabbit farming and that I should tackle head on all the obstacles that come my way as I match towards my destiny. Funny isn’t it?

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Rabbit Farming

In as much as we are told not to struggle to make meaning out of a myriad of thoughts that cross our mind, I tend to disagree. My disagreement is based on the fact that it is through questioning of our lives that we can unlock ideas which we could never have imagined that we would be able to.

(Conejo is the Spanish name for a rabbit.)

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Bon anniversaire

So, what is the best piece of advice you can ever give to a person celebrating their birthday? Or what inspiration or motivational talk can you give? Indeed, there is so much you can share with such a person. From telling them to plan, dream big and accomplish the impossible, to seizing every opportunity that comes their way. To others, you may advise them to live life to the fullest, travel the world and explore the undiscovered areas. To others, you may advise them to keep on keeping on with the good work especially if they are doing a commendable job.

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Sample Birthday Advice

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But, the big question is, what piece would you offer to the uninspired? To that young person who works tirelessly day-in-day-out devoting 100% to everything they do yet, they see no tangible result? I know you will say that they ought to hang in there, and that good things take time. Well well well! Ahem! They will say that if there is anything that motivates them each day is that someday they know that they will get it.

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An individual’s birthday presents a favorable chance for them to turn over a new leaf. It also gives them the opportunity to review the year that has passed and see where they ought to rectify or enhance. I tend to view it as a time to conduct a SWOT analysis of one’s life. It is during the birthday that you will decipher your strengths and find ways to maximize on them. You will know your weaknesses and come up with a plan for minimizing them. You will probably look back and wonder why you did not grab that opportunity when it presented itself. In the end, you’ll look back and thank the Almighty for delivering you from hazardous moments that almost took your breath away.

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Today is my birthday. After a stock take, I have come to look at this new year as a chance to practice kai zen.

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I consider myself a Work-In-Progress. I choose to put in not 40%, not 75% but 100% in everything I do. As for commitment, this will be my principle: if I am in I am in, no dilly-dallying, no hesitation because I know that I am only as good as the chances I take.

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Tom Cruise on commitment.

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Too often, we are faced with situations where we are required to choose. For long, I have been battling with choosing: I always want it all. The “I want it all” mentality is driven by the “fear of missing out” on the benefits of the foregone option. I suppose I am not alone in this. However, I am still learning to stick to a decision till it bears fruit. I have come to appreciate the fact that I cannot be at two places at the same time and that is what makes me human. If at all I am to pursue two things, then it is better off when I delegate the other duty.

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Summing everything up, this year is a year of action, not hesitation. A year of focus, not divided attention. A year of constant improvement, not being a sloth. These are my goals. However, I am still in need of counsel for the scripture reminds me in Proverbs 11:14 (AMPC) that, “Where no wise guidance is, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety,” and in Proverbs 19:20 (AMPC) that, “Hear counsel, receive instruction, and accept correction, that you may be wise in the time to come.”

So, please feel free to share your piece of advice with me at the comment box below.

Happy Birthday to me!

Life lessons from poker

Indeed #LifeIsLikeAGame of poker. Simple lessons in life can be drawn from the poker table. We have heard too often that we should  play our cards right to have the life we desire. That is just one sentiment regarding life and poker. Have a look at the summary below:

Lesson One: Play the hand you’re dealt

Perhaps, we have heard of poker. We all have different views concerning the game. However, one underlying thought that we are all accustomed to is that to win a game of poker you have to be lucky. Luck is an enthralling subject such that we tend to think and conclude that the people around us who seem to be more successful were born lucky. However, that is not the case on many occasions.

Lemmie keep it simple. The first lesson I learned from a game of poker is that in life, you have to play the hand you are dealt. Jawaharlal Nehru, the First Prime Minister of India, said that “Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play, it is free will.”
The first lesson applies in poker and life because we do not get to choose the cards we are dealt, we simply play the ones we do have to the best of our ability. Yes, it is harder to win with crap cards, but it is not an impossible task. On the same breath, it is hard to work your way through your low moments in life, but it can be done.

Possibly, it would be nice to be born into money like the Kardashians, and it would be nice to always get Pocket Aces when your opponent has Pocket Kings. However, this is not always the case in poker as in life. We are all born into different circumstances, how we handle these situations determines how high we rise or how low we sink in life. Hence, we need to play the hand we are dealt no matter what.

On another note, always have your eyes set on the bright side. As they say, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” and you will begin to discover that when you are dealt a crap hand, and you do make it, it is so much sweeter.

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Lesson Two: Make your own luck

Thomas Jefferson said, “I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

Have you ever realized that the more hard work you put into something the more things fall into place? It is during such moments that you tend to fall for the notion that you are indeed lucky! However, at times, you lose the spark that once motivated you to put in the hard work and all of a sudden things come tumbling down. During such moments, you can sit around and hope things work out for you, or you can take the necessary steps to reduce the role that luck plays in your life. The case is the same for poker game when you are dealt a pack of unfavorable cards.

However, you need to realize that being good at something doesn’t mean you won’t need to be lucky some of the time, it just means you won’t need to be lucky all of the time. Basically, the point that I am driving home is that the old saying of, “I’d rather be lucky than good,” is flat wrong, because if you’re good at something you don’t need to be all that lucky.

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Lesson Three: Be open-minded

George Bernard Shaw said, “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” Well, that is self explanatory, or isn’t it so?

Even though pundits would have us believe otherwise, not everything is black and white, and there isn’t always a “correct” answer. There is an awful lot of gray in this world.

What I’m telling you is, don’t close off your mind to other ways of thinking or other potential solutions to a problem.

Most of the time, in poker and in life, the answer will be clear-cut and simple, but other times it won’t. There isn’t always a right or wrong way to play a hand of poker, and the same holds true in your everyday life, sometimes you’ll find that there is more than one right answer, and on rare occasions there can often be no good answers and you have to choose between the lesser of two evils.

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Lesson Four: Be PROACTIVE not REACTIVE

According to Steven R. Covey, the first habit of highly successful individuals is that they are proactive. Being proactive means that one takes responsibility for their lives; they do not blame conditions and circumstances, or the conditioning for their behaviour. They understand that they choose their behaviour. On the other hand, reactive individuals are often affected by their physical environment. They search for external sources to blame for their behaviour. For instance, if the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and performance, and they blame the weather.

Pro-activeness can be likened to aggression. An aggressive person pursues something rather than waiting for things to happen in their lives. In poker, there is an age old axiom, “Aggression wins.”

In contrast, reacting to everything that comes along limits your chances to succeed, as sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns and exert your own will. The perfect example of this occurs in poker: When you call you can only win by having the best hand, but when you bet you can win by having the best hand or getting the other guy to fold.

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Lesson Five: Know when to cut your losses

Jackie Robinson asserts that, “Baseball is like a poker game. Nobody wants to quit when he’s losing; nobody wants you to quit when you’re ahead.” This scenario can be likened to the pursuit of one’s losses with an aim of minimizing it.

In poker, chasing your losses is a prescription for disaster. As a poker player, you need to separate the money you’ve already invested in the game as well as in the current hand from your current decision. It is worth noting that the players who don’t follow this advice, and say things like “I’ve already put so much money in the pot, I can’t fold now” don’t last too long, or at least there money doesn’t.

You’ll find the same thinking is even more prevalent in your regular everyday life as well, with people simply unwilling to trade in the old car that they have been bringing to the shop every month because they just put so much money into it already. Or the people who buy an autographed artefact for lots of money that suddenly drops in price, but they won’t sell it (and cut their losses) because they can’t get what they initially paid for it.

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Lesson Six: Enjoy the journey

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Life is Journey not a destination.”

A good poker player will tell you that poker is played for the long-run; you don’t look at individual sessions or even weeks or months of results to determine a player’s ability; it’s simply all one big, long game.

Likewise, in life, you should not sweat the small stuff. Moreover, you do not have to beat yourself up over setbacks. However, you should enjoy the process of becoming a skilled practitioner in whatever you choose to do. Sometimes it will take a long time before you become a winning poker player, but when you do those early losses will be wiped out fairly quickly.

Indeed #LifeIsLikeAGame

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Lesson Seven: Life simply isn’t fair, nor should it be

Barbara Kingsolver said, “Don’t try to make life a mathematics problem with yourself in the center and everything coming out equal. When you’re good, bad things can still happen. And if you’re bad, you can still be lucky.”

If you want fairness you won’t find it at a poker table, and you won’t find it in life either. Doing the right thing doesn’t always guarantee a good result, and just like in life, the poker tables can be unusually cruel and heartbreaking at times, but such is the nature of a card game and a world where randomness rules.

That being said, in between each of these kicks in the groin the poker gods give you there is a lesson to be learned; focus on what you can control and let the uncontrollable events happen around you; trying to control, or dwelling on, everything is a pointless exercise and takes away your attention from the things you can control.

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Lesson Eight: Protect yourself

From time to time, we can be swindled or be taken advantage of. As a result of this, we all have to learn how to protect ourselves at some point in life.

So, always be alert, be skeptical, and as Benny Binion would say, “Trust everyone, but always cut the cards.”

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Lesson Nine: Discipline

Thomas Henry Huxley said, “Perhaps the most valuable result of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, whether you like it or not.”

In life, no matter how skilled you are, without discipline you will implode sooner or later; likely sooner. Likewise, in poker you need to be disciplined and control your emotions, you need to have a disciplined approach when it comes to your bankroll, and you need to be disciplined in the way you play, study, and approach the game.

Think of it this way; it’s fun to play soccer or even basketball, but it’s not so fun to do all of the conditioning drills that will make you a better soccer or basketball player. Often times it’s the little things –the things we hate doing– that are the difference between success and failure.

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Lesson Ten: You don’t have to be the best

It is said that, “To succeed in business surround yourself with geniuses; to succeed in poker surround yourself with idiots.”

In poker, the key to success is to know your limitations and to find games that you can beat and the same holds true in life. Don’t bite off more than you can chew, and don’t make promises you cannot keep.

In life, it is important to know that when you are in need of help or advice, ask for it!

It’s simple, but if you understand what you can and can’t do, are willing to seek out the advice of others and actually listen to it, and do the absolute best you can in whatever you choose to do, your life will be a whole lot easier.

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(NB: Much of the content in this blog post is retrieved from http://www.nj.com/onlinegamblingnj/index.ssf/2014/02/10_important_life_lessons_i_le.html)