“…..checking on you…..”

“……….Hey there? Longtime! Hope you doing well. I’m good. Was just checking on you. And BTW Happy New Month!!……”

This is just a simple text that I receive each moment we usher in a new month. I value such texts regardless of whether we have had little contact with the person inboxing me. I appreciate the ‘checking on you’ messages.

On the other hand, I usually send the same type of ‘catching up’ messages to friends and associates. However, in other times, I send them inconsistently. With the advent of technology and more so WhatsApp and Telegram, I prefer to download images bearing the words ‘Happy New Month.’ I get straight to the point. To close friends, I write customized messages to wish them well in the coming month. To friends who I haven’t contacted in a long time, I usually start a little conversation just to check on how they are doing and also update them on how I am doing.

It is usually good to check on people around us. Nobody knows when their time on earth will be up. The unexpected always happens. In the current generation, it has become the norm for individuals to be united by death. It is during the burial of a relative that people get to catch up. I remember late last year when I attended the funeral of a high school mate, the need for catching up with schoolmates and more so classmates arose. A good way of doing so was knowing where each individual resides such that when you are around their neighborhood, you just give them a call and meet them for one to two minutes. Another way was to create WhatsApp groups where individuals could share ideas. The underlying factor was that we should not be united by the death of a comrade.

Death reminds us that we are just but passengers here on earth. The world is not our home. Having this in mind, it would be good to be at least catching up with individuals around us. Make it monthly, or even quarterly. For those close to us you can make it weekly or fortnightly. The rule of the thumb is to know the limits and also to understand the relationship between you and the individual you wish to text. We all need privacy. Moreover, we are wired differently, and as a result, not everyone enjoys chatting. Just hit them up with a conclusive statement like the one shared above. You could start today since tomorrow is a new month. Go through your contact list and identify those people you haven’t contacted in a long time. Get to know how they are doing and also tell them how you are doing.

Happy catching up!

STOP!

Close to a decade ago, I came across my little brother’s exercise book. I must say the book was old judging by the wrinkled and stained pages contained therein. It would pass for paper used in firing up a charcoal stove. However, something caught my attention. Indeed as they say, never judge a book by its cover, I proved this adage to be true. In the middle of the book were written the words STOP STOP STOP. The final stop had been broken down into an acronym with each letter standing for something.

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S-Stop

T-Think

O-Observe

P-Plan

I began to connect the dots. Previously, he had written the word ‘STOP’ on the wall using a red marker pen. We couldn’t understand why he wrote it. In fact, mom gave him a thorough beating for dirtifying the walls with nonsense. Later in the evening, I asked what really pushed him to the extent of writing on the wall. His reply was unimpeachable.

“Teacher alituambia tuandike pahali tunaezaona kila siku. Sa mi nkaona ukuta ndio poa!”

You know how kids are innocent. From this experience, I was able to draw one lesson. And that lesson is the importance of taking a pause. At times we may find ourselves stuck between a rock and a hard place. This is the point when we need to STOP. In that period of a pause, we need to examine the current situation and determine the causes of the setback. We need to think of a way out and then devise a plan to take us to our destination.

Games have halftimes, conferences have tea and lunch breaks, racing competitions have checkpoints, and schools have break times. You also need to have a break time in your schedule. This is a time where you reflect the seeds planted so far and the results achieved in the day, the week, the month or even the year. That is the reason jobs have leave days and holidays.

Despite having tight schedules, short deadlines and the desire to achieve more, just find it within your schedule to set aside time to STOP. It acts like a checkpoint towards your destiny. So the next time you feel restless or are stressed, STOP!

Anger..

In today’s world, there’s no shortage of things to make you angry. But is angry really the way you want to be?

Anger certainly grabs your attention, heightening your awareness, giving a burst of energy. Yet once that happens, anger has nothing more to offer.

Maintaining anger will drain your energy. And what you get in return is nothing of any value.

Be angry if you must, then quickly let the anger go. Free yourself to respond in a way that’s beneficial and effective.

Don’t let yourself be trapped by anger and forced into destructive reaction. Step away from the desire for revenge or punishment, and find a positive response.

Focus on the good you can do, on the positive difference you can make. Leave anger behind as you move forward with the commitment to make things better.

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Future…

Every prediction of the future is based on the past. No person knows for sure what will happen tomorrow, or next year.

If you are tempted to be discouraged about the future, avoid that temptation. The results are not in yet, and you can act right now to dramatically improve those results.

There are billions of people in this world, seeking to live prosperous and fulfilling lives. Each day, a whole lot of them are doing so.

Countless new and worthwhile ideas are born every moment. In our highly interconnected world, good ideas and their implementations can quickly spread.

No one knows what tomorrow will bring. Yet there’s an enormous shared incentive, spread throughout the world, to make tomorrow a little better than today.

Let yourself envision a bright future ahead, then do something to make it so. You can be sure many others, every day, are doing the same.

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Appreciate your why…

You are in the process of discovering your why and as you do so, you come to know your how. Your why is the purpose of your life or what you intended to accomplish, and your how is the manner you choose to go about that.

Everyone has a why but not all discover it because they may think it needs to be something big or obvious, but the smallest and simplest of goals such as being a good employee, friend, or supportive person can be a why.

Every experience you have had, adventure you have taken, and things you have done in your life have been a part of your individual journey to your why, and as you examine all those things closely, it becomes quite apparent to you.

Now as you discover your why you inspire others to do the same, which is a your why.

In the words of William Barclay:

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Decide…

Today is the perfect day for you to decide who you desire to be. You have these days several times throughout your life and it is vital that you consciously take advantage of them.

Now it is never that you cannot do, be, or become whatever you desire, but it is difficult for you to accomplish that if you have yet to make the decision for yourself.

The reason you must continually do this throughout your life is that your particular goals or those desires of who you envision yourself to become will change because your awareness grows.

You have difficulty with this because you were taught that you should always stay with one thing. Give that up.

Remember:

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Give up!!!

It is high time as human beings that we should do ourselves justice. Doing justice in this context implies that we should increase the frequency at which we give ourselves credit. We need to appreciate the little we have or even the little that we have achieved. We should avoid focusing on the negative, avoid stress and also instances where we find ourselves whining about how life has given us lemons instead of pineapples!

It is only fair that everyone appreciates where they are and as they do that, they should make it a point to GIVE UP on the following:

1. The Shame of Past Failures
Your past does not equal your future. All that matters is what you do right now

2. Letting the opinions of others control your life
It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. You have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else

3. Being indecisive about what you want
You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be.

4. Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you
Accept the responsibility. Also remember that the best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now!

5. Choosing to do nothing
You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when
You can only decide how you are going to live, right now
Every day is a new chance to choose.

6. Your need to be right
Aim for success but never give up your right to be wrong.
Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life

7. Running from problems that should be fixed
Stop running.
Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve

8. Making excuses rather than decisions
Most long term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions

9. Overlooking the positive points in your life
What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for.
You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now

10. Not appreciating the present Moment
Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of little things.

Only then shall we be able to enjoy every step of our way…

Strive to be your own inspiration…

While it is indeed helpful, inspiring, and at times motivational for you to study the lives of successful people for your own guidance, there is another way that is also effective and maybe more so. That other way is for you to become your own inspiration.

All you need do is study your own life and take note of all of your accomplishments and successes. These can be from the most
insignificant things to those major obstacles you were able to overcome. This is something that absolutely everyone can do, for if you have lived even a few years you have these experiences in your storehouse.

This process can be the best way for you to stay motivated and inspired by your own life.

Keep on trying…

You cannot know how to ride a bicycle by just reading a manual. You have to jump on the bicycle, fall down , fall many times until you learn how to balance yourself and ride the bicycle.

Every single person who rides a bicycle today has fallen down numerous times but despite the pain and injuries, they never gave up. They kept trying and trying until they got it right.

Similarly, in life, there is nothing that you will ever achieve by just wishing and praying for it. You have to get out and indulge yourself in the actual action. You have to do something. You have to try. You will fail but you are not supposed to give up. Success is not for any chosen few I keep saying, success is for everyone who understands that failure is just one of the process of getting there. Listen, I know you might be reading this and thinking this is too cliche but this is the reality. There is no jackpot in real life; you have to go out and try and keep trying without giving up. This week, don’t give up ; keep trying and trying until you get it right.

Remember:

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Don’t be jealous…

“You do not have to blacken the other fellow in order for you to shine. You can shine very brilliantly and the other guy can also shine brilliantly. This business of being jealous and envious is ridiculous. It is a mark of smallness of mind and spirit. It is only people of very small minds and spirits who think that they can only shine if the other fellow is totally blackened.”

Retired Kenyan President H.E. Hon Mwai Kibaki.