To change a behavior you must first change the thought that produced the behavior itself. You only take certain actions based on the thoughts you hold about yourself. If you find and change those thoughts you change the behavior.
You are in the process of discovering your why and as you do so, you come to know your how. Your why is the purpose of your life or what you intended to accomplish, and your how is the manner you choose to go about that.
Everyone has a why but not all discover it because they may think it needs to be something big or obvious, but the smallest and simplest of goals such as being a good employee, friend, or supportive person can be a why.
Every experience you have had, adventure you have taken, and things you have done in your life have been a part of your individual journey to your why, and as you examine all those things closely, it becomes quite apparent to you.
Now as you discover your why you inspire others to do the same, which is a your why.
In the words of William Barclay:
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It is high time as human beings that we should do ourselves justice. Doing justice in this context implies that we should increase the frequency at which we give ourselves credit. We need to appreciate the little we have or even the little that we have achieved. We should avoid focusing on the negative, avoid stress and also instances where we find ourselves whining about how life has given us lemons instead of pineapples!
It is only fair that everyone appreciates where they are and as they do that, they should make it a point to GIVE UP on the following:
1. The Shame of Past Failures
Your past does not equal your future. All that matters is what you do right now
2. Letting the opinions of others control your life
It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. You have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else
3. Being indecisive about what you want
You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be.
4. Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you
Accept the responsibility. Also remember that the best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now!
5. Choosing to do nothing
You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when
You can only decide how you are going to live, right now
Every day is a new chance to choose.
6. Your need to be right
Aim for success but never give up your right to be wrong.
Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life
7. Running from problems that should be fixed
Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve
8. Making excuses rather than decisions
Most long term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions
9. Overlooking the positive points in your life
What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for.
You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now
10. Not appreciating the present Moment
Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of little things.
Only then shall we be able to enjoy every step of our way…
While it is indeed helpful, inspiring, and at times motivational for you to study the lives of successful people for your own guidance, there is another way that is also effective and maybe more so. That other way is for you to become your own inspiration.
All you need do is study your own life and take note of all of your accomplishments and successes. These can be from the most
insignificant things to those major obstacles you were able to overcome. This is something that absolutely everyone can do, for if you have lived even a few years you have these experiences in your storehouse.
This process can be the best way for you to stay motivated and inspired by your own life.
You cannot know how to ride a bicycle by just reading a manual. You have to jump on the bicycle, fall down , fall many times until you learn how to balance yourself and ride the bicycle.
Every single person who rides a bicycle today has fallen down numerous times but despite the pain and injuries, they never gave up. They kept trying and trying until they got it right.
Similarly, in life, there is nothing that you will ever achieve by just wishing and praying for it. You have to get out and indulge yourself in the actual action. You have to do something. You have to try. You will fail but you are not supposed to give up. Success is not for any chosen few I keep saying, success is for everyone who understands that failure is just one of the process of getting there. Listen, I know you might be reading this and thinking this is too cliche but this is the reality. There is no jackpot in real life; you have to go out and try and keep trying without giving up. This week, don’t give up ; keep trying and trying until you get it right.
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The obligation to do something is not the problem. The problem is your anxiety about it.
The responsibility you have is not the problem. The problem is your resentment of it.
Instead of trying to avoid obligations and responsibilities, focus on their benefits. They burden you only to the degree you see them as burdens.
Following through on your obligations will earn you respect. Upholding your responsibilities will give you influence with others.
Every person has a desire to matter, to make a difference. Obligations and responsibilities enable you to make a difference in a meaningful, positive way.
Choose to stop fighting, stop worrying, stop complaining about obligations and responsibilities. Embrace the great richness they can bring.
Don’t let a few problems stop you. don’t let a few obstacles stand in your way.
Instead of running from the problems, step boldly toward them. Instead of using them as an excuse to quit, use them to develop a path for moving forward.
With each problem, you can choose to either work through it or to work around it. What you don’t want to do is back away from it.
The value of any achievement comes from the problems that must be addressed to reach that achievement. Diamonds are more difficult to mine than gravel, and so are worth much more.
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When you’re good at solving problems, you’re good at creating value. When you’re willing to deal with problems, you’re able to achieve things.
In this life, there will always be problems. And so, there will always be new value to create.
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I haven’t gotten where I want to be in my life, but, the more I live this life, day after day, experience has taught and keeps teaching me that the things that cause me the most pain end up being the most successful and rewarding. Suffering humiliation, rejection, dehumanization, and dismissal by others is not the end of the road! You have to keep crawling forward even if it means going or doing it all alone!
Never let those who tear you down to win over you! Always find your voice in all you do or aspire to do! There are more humans who will pull you down than those who lift others up! Find your own base and curve your personal operational niche. Never, ever, ever give up on yourself!
Are you always wishing you were somewhere else? Well, for the moment you’re not, so your best choice is to make the most of where you are.
Do you wish you had more money, resources, time, connections or experience? The way to get those things you don’t yet have is to make full use of what you do have.
Do you fear what you’re doing is causing you to miss out on something better? Remind yourself you’re doing what you’re doing because of the choices you’ve made, and honor those choices.
Wishing for something better takes time and energy away from actually creating something better. stop wishing and start creating.
Pay attention to your feelings, but don’t let them destroy your effectiveness. Listen to your desires, devise a realistic plan to get where you want to be, and work that plan.
Feel your dissatisfaction, and take positive energy from it. Transform that energy into focused effort, and push your life where you want it to go.